How To Keep Your Children Safe Online

1 in 5 children who use the internet have been sexually solicited. 1 in 4 has seen unwanted pornography. Nearly 60% of teens have received an email or instant message from a stranger (half have replied.)

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The internet is a great place to hang out. Not only can all sorts of information be found there (some correct, some not so much), but it’s also a great way to stay in touch with friends and family.

Sadly, the internet is also a dangerous place to hang out – particularly for children.

Cyber stalkers, child molesters, inappropriate content, cyber bullies and more are lurking, waiting for an opportunity to reach out to your children. Such an experience could possibly damage a child for the rest of their life.

In this article, I’ll share my knowledge about protecting your kids from the dark side of the internet. We’ll look at how to monitor their computer and mobile device usage, how to set parental controls to ensure they can’t view inappropriate content and much more.

We’ll also take a look at what it might mean if your child suddenly closes an app or shuts off their computer or mobile device when you walk into the room. Also, we’ll discuss what to do if your child is being cyberbullied.

I’ll offer suggestions about how to share the internet experience with your child and how to make sure they’re okay when you’re not around to watch. We’ll cover how to control what they can see on websites, how to manage what they can purchase and download in the popular iOS and Android App Stores, and even how to set curfews for internet use.

We’ll also explore the parental controls available to you on the Windows, macOS, iOS and Android platforms. All 4 platforms offer excellent controls for parents to set limits for what apps can be used, how they can be used, and where children can go on the web as well as much more.

There are a number of great third-party hardware tools available to parents today that help them monitor and control their offspring’s internet usage. We’ll look at devices that make it easy to control internet access, including a Disney-branded device that actually puts the old “man-in-the-middle” hacker attack to good use.

And, kids love to watch videos on their computer or mobile device. So, we’ll also take a look at the controls YouTube and iTunes offer for parents to control what type of videos their kids can access.

The Dangers of The Internet For Children

I sat for a long while after typing the header for this section. “The Dangers of the Internet for Children.” Where do I start? Okay, let’s first take a look at some sobering statistics

the Dangers of the Internet for Children

How does this happen? Parents closely monitor their children’s online activity, right? Not so much.

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I’m not trying to lash out at parents who don’t keep track of every move their kids make on the web. It’s impossible to keep track of their every keypress. In today’s world, more and more devices offer internet access. Today’s kids are learning to use those devices at an ever-younger age. Plus, in a growing number of families, both parents work, and they simply can’t be around to monitor their offspring every minute of the day.

There are ways for even busy parents to protect their family members from the horrors of the more dangerous parts of the internet. We’ll be discussing what parents can do to make things safer in just a bit.

Just what type of content and dangers can kids be exposed to on the internet?

The San Diego County District Attorney’s Office says everything from bomb sites to pornographic sitescan be found on the net, and any variation you can think of that might fall somewhere in between.

Almost any search of the internet can result in a child’s exposure to objectionable content, even when filters and parental controls are in the equation. An innocent Google search for help with homework can lead to links that shouldn’t be seen by anyone, much less a child.

Unsupervised chat rooms are some of the most dangerous areas on the net for young users. “Cybermolesters” pose as other children in such chat rooms, befriending and gaining the confidence of their victims.

Cyberbullying is another peril for today’s online youth. What is cyberbullying? It can be best described as using internet-connected communication devices to make a person feel sad, angry, scared – and in some sad cases, suicidal.

Examples of such behavior would be sending hurtful texts or emails and posting hurtful items on social networks such as Facebook and Twitter. Other examples include spreading hurtful rumors publicly via social networks, group texts or social postings.

It is difficult to estimate exactly how common cyberbullying is among kids. The definition of cyberbullying changes according to who is doing the measuring. However, the respected Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that around 15.5% of high-schoolers are affected by cyberbullying. For a bit of a comparison, in-person bullying is estimated to affect a little over 20% of high school students.

How to Protect Your Kids When They’re Online

As I’ve mentioned before, it is unrealistic to think parents can continually physically be looking over the shoulder of their offspring while they use the internet. (Virtually is another thing entirely, and we’ll get to that in a while.) However, there are ways you can encourage safe internet usage, even when you’re not around.

What You Can Do Immediately

Just to get started, let’s list some things you can do almost immediately to help keep your kids safe while they’re online.

It won’t take a lot of time to try these suggestions, and while we’ll talk later on about setting up parental controls on your kids’ computers and mobile devices, the following steps can give you some peace of mind until you can do so.


Place computers in a common area of the house

Don’t allow kids to have a computer in their room. You’d be surprised by how much the mere presence of a parent who may or may not be looking over a child’s shoulder while they use the computer can keep a child in line. They have no way of knowing if your eyes actually are good enough to see across the room, now do they? Make sure the computer’s screen is visible from other parts of the room, and isn’t turned toward a wall.


Learn more about computers and the internet

While folks are now more knowledgeable about computers and mobile devices than ever, it never hurts to learn a bit more. Look for information from your Internet Service Provider (ISP), online resources, or yes, the library. Don’t be embarrassed to pick up a “Dummies” book on the subject. (You can buy it on your Kindle or from iBooks. No one will ever be the wiser.)


Spend time online with your kids

The family that surfs together…Well, I can’t think of a rhyme at the moment, but make browsing the web a family thing (just like watching television was for most of us when we were kids, lo those many years ago.) Hang out with your kids and help them with their homework online, searching for information together. But, make sure to put the Google search filter on “safe.”


Set reasonable time and usage limits

Set rules about what your child can and can’t do when on the internet. Set time limits on their computer use. If they say they’re researching homework, maybe you don’t include that in the time limits. But make sure they’re actually using it for homework. (Hint: watching episodes of “Rick and Morty” is hardly ever a required element in homework assignments.)


Discuss the dangers of the web with your child

Sit down and have a discussion about the dangers of the internet. Talk openly and honestly about what’s out there and the kind of stuff they want to avoid. Scare the crap out of them, if needed. Forewarned is forearmed.


Keep the youngsters out of online chat rooms, and do your best to reinforce the old rule, “never talk to strangers.”

Chat rooms are a popular place for sex offenders to meet their prey. If possible, keep your kids out of chat rooms altogether. Make sure your child knows that no matter how nice an online “friend” may seem to be, they are still a stranger, and may not be who they appear to be.


No personal information given out, and no “face-to-face” meetings

Kids may not understand how giving out personal info like their phone number or address could be harmful. They may also want to meet their new “buddy” in real life for an ice cream or a Coke. Say no, and never allow that.


NEVER let your child upload or download photos without your permission

Online predators will often send photos supposedly of themselves, or request photos of the child. If your child does receive photos from an online “buddy,” and they’re at all questionable, immediately contact the police or your ISP.


Check with your Internet Service Provider for any parental controls, blocking and filtering tools they may offer

Examples are covered in the next section.

Tools Parents Can Use to Protect Their Kids on the Internet

ISP Parental Controls

As I mentioned in point 9 of the list above, most Internet Service Providers – including XfinityCoxCharter/Spectrum and others – offer free parental controls for users to make the internet a safer place for their younger family members.

While there are a number of other parental control software packages available for sale, find out what free options your ISP offers first. You may find it fits your needs, and you’ll save a few bucks in the process.

How To Keep Your Children Safe Online

Here are some points to follow to help keep your child safe online:

1. Set up parental controls

Parental controls can be used to block harmful or upsetting content for children and are really easy to set up.   For more information, visit the NSPCC  website.

2. Control your search engine

Search engines have controls that you can set up to limit what will be retrieved when they search.  Activate and lock the safe search settings on the sites that they use.

3. Protect your device

Every device they have access to should be protected. Controls should be installed on every device your child uses – this includes their games consoles.

4. Safety measures

Activate the safety measures offered by different sites – make it your responsibility to pro-actively do this.

5. Pop ups!

Block pop-ups as this will help control what adverts they see.

6. Do your research

Find good sites and agree as a family that your child can access these.  Make sure you continually review these and check the content your children are seeing.

7. Manage their use and access

Talk to your children about safely using the internet, be open with them and encourage them to speak to you if they have concerns. Remember, not everyone is who they say they are online.

For more information visit these websites:

  • We have an advice page for children that are worried about internet bullying, which you could read with them
  • Check out the ‘ThinkUKnow’ website. This is a government based site advising children, parents and carers on how to stay safe on the internet
  • You can visit the CEOP website to take you to more resources
  • You could also try the NSPCC website, which includes some great information for parents on keeping children safe on line
  • Views this NSPCC leaflet on keeping your children safe online